Friday, 31 December 2010

Life: 2010 - So long, farewell, Auf Wiedersehen, goodbye!


The year has been eventful hasn't it?

No Big Brother on channel 4 (but I think The Family has replaced that reality hunger ;o) ), X Factor's growing bigger than ever (thanks Wagner!), Kate and William are giving us a Bank Holiday next year, the economy was a lil' better than last year (but it's still not great), cables released what world leaders really think of each other, parts of the US and UK almost came to a standstill because of the white stuff - snow, that is ;o), Northern Ireland and parts of Yorskhire are without water a man who created a system for guys and girls to rate attractiveness (allegedly) became TIME's person of the year, and we came to learn that 500,000,000 of us use it in an entirely different way as Facebook.

So, what did 2010 mean to you? I hope it was a good 'un, the fact that I'm still here to make my dreams a reality is sommat I'm grateful for.

If 2010 wasn't your best year so far, make 2011 so.

Here's to a year of:

Creativity
Beauty
Uncharted waters
Success
Prosperity and wealth creation
Love
Unprecedented sowing and reaping
Legacy creation
Fun
Endless laughter
Music and singing
Solutions to problems
Friendship
Frankness
Shot calling
Game changing
and
Good times

for you.

Till 2011
xoxo

TV: Who watched The Family? - Part 6 and 7

So we said goodbye to the Adesinas.

They've entertained, shocked, appalled and pleased us.

We could relate to the children of the parents who seem emotionally detached, working for the family business, respect for elders (who feel they have the right to tell you off even though they don't know you)...

So many highlights...

What were yours?

Monday, 20 December 2010

Music: Love this tune from Rihanna - What's My Name? Feat. Drake


Rihanna (as pictured above) may not be the most accomplished vocalist, but certainly knows how to come up with great tunes. SOS, Umbrella and now What's My Name? rank amongst my favourites. What are yours?


Sunday, 19 December 2010

TV: Who watched The Family? - Part 5

Readers of my blog cannot help but notice my love of the programme The Family.



This documentary captures a mixture of life's dilemmas: dreams, should I eat that cake or not?, relationships, love, music... 

Ah, music. Speaking of music, Ayo was the focus of the show again, and to many people, his life seems to evoke the question: how long should you reach for your dream [or how long is he gonna keep up with this (insert word here)]?

His performance at The Sunday Show in last week's show didn't exactly get the party started and left a lot to be desired. These are some of the things I would (possibly/try to do) about if I was his friend:

    1. (Persistently) Ask him what his other interests are in order to see if there's something else he could concentrate on (obviously as well as him continuing his rapping, of course) that he's suppressed, dismissed/disregarded or seen as unachievable
    2. Get him networking with more good quality MCs if he doesn't already. This would encourage him to perform better - or give it up. As they say: "iron sharpens iron"
    3. Encourage him to do A LOT more gigs. There's nothing like acting out your dream to see whether you should make it a reality - or just slay it
    What would you suggest if you were Ayo's friend?

    Monday, 13 December 2010

    TV: Congrats Matt - X Factor 2010

    So I drew Matt...

    Wednesday, 8 December 2010

    Life: ...

    "Legacy is greater than currency" @Garyvee

    TV: Who watched The Family? - Part 4




    We got another entertaining and insightful episode from The Family - the Nigerian clan The Adesinas, living in east London.

    Who watched it then? I did - and I loved it.

    The focus seemed to be on Julie again. [What about Olu (above: photo courtesy of channel 4) though? What has he got to say for himself? I'm waiting for something.] Julie was throwing away items in the house much to the annoyance - and amusement - of the Adesina crew. Her mother was naturally unhappy and asked her where particular items, such as her pastry spoon disappeared - the daughter seemed to think she was the responsible and cleanest adult in the house, driving her mother to say: "I'm not the daughter, I'm the mother!" Once again, instant vintage quote from Vicky, the matriarch.

    I was cringing at the seeming lack of respect from Julie towards her mum as she appeared to shout at her mum or talk in a condescending manner. A part of me wonders what she would be like if she was called 'Jumi' and had been sent to Nigeria for 'some home training' [which is the opposite of a cosy lifestyle: being told what to do 24/7, being physically disciplined if stepping out of line - in other words a social-services-free lifestyle] for a few years.

    A friend of mine wondered if Julie was suffering from 'middle child syndrome': seeking attention and control of the family unit in equal measure. Neither the eldest with familial responsibility on one's head, nor 'spoiled' as the youngest, the middle child Julie may wonder what her role is in the tribe. It's a theory we can only speculate on. Whatever your position in the family, is disrespect the mum or dad called for, eh? Or can you understand her frustration and stance as a 'lone voice in the wilderness'?

    Someone else suggested Julie served as an analogy for a new paradigm shift in Nigeria as a country, while old-school resistance lingers, refusing to 'clean up'. An interesting viewpoint.

    What are your thoughts? Let me know below.

    Monday, 6 December 2010

    Inspiration: Martin Luther King: a man of substance


    I've been inspired to sketch a pic of Martin Luther King as I have been reading his autobiography. It's hard to not put him on a pedestal; I realise that we don't know all of his weaknesses as well as his strengths, but what he did help to achieve is so evident. If I was to travel to the US I could get on any seat on public transport. It's hard to believe it wouldn't be possible 55 years ago.

    The work's not complete on race relations, but we're closer than we were.
    "My great prayer is always for God to free me from the paralysis of crippling fear, because I believe that when a person lives with fears of the consequences for his personal life, he can never do anything in terms of lifting the whole of humanity and solving the social problems which we confront in every age and every generation."

    Martin Luther King

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    Who inspires you?

    Give me your suggestions below.

    Saturday, 4 December 2010

    TV: Who watched The Family? - Part 3

    Did you enjoy channel 4's The Family this week?

    I did!

    One of my favourite quotes from the Adesinas was from Vicky the matriarch on her desire to see her son Ayo married: "He doesn't need to rush, he just needs to be... fast." Classic.

    The spotlight was firmly on Ayo (above: picture courtesy of channel 4) this week. At 27, as is the Nigerian culture, Ayo was feeling the pressure of being the eldest son.

    You can catch up here.

    Ayo was evidently still in love with one of his exes, which felt unfortunate because he was still weighing up the option of getting back with her, but he was doing absolutely nothing about it because of his mum's family's feelings of animosity towards her...

    And it makes me wonder, how often we, as humans, seem content to rest in a state of limbo.

    In Ayo's case he was neither willing to walk away, leave the past behind and meet someone else he could settle down with, nor face the wrath of his mother and find out how his ex felt and attempt to make the relationship work if she felt the same. So he stayed in the same place. It's the easiest thing to do, but not the most beneficial.

    Choosing either option brings an element of risk, yes, but the potential rewards are so evident: a) Finding that the aforementioned woman is a great match for him after all - or b) someone else is. And this is where the word responsibility comes in. Is he willing to face up to this? I cannot guess, but I know how easy it is to lay life decisions in someone else's hands (in this case, his mother) because it seems to absolve oneself of blame if it goes seins up. But life is a risk. We are the result of one spermatozoon taking a risk and racing as fast as it could to the proverbial finishing line - the egg. So why can't so many of us run with that relentlessness throughout life?

    This is a note to self as much as it is to anyone else to make a bold decision - and be wise about it - rather than doing absolutely nothing and fall just short of happiness, just for fear of failing.

    It's not easy o, but Ayo - make a decision. You don't need to rush, you just need to be... fast.

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    So, am I being too idealistic here? Should he bide his time? Wait till his mum goes back to Nigeria ;o)? Is there anything wrong with waiting? What are your thoughts on risk-taking in general? Let me know below.

    Wednesday, 1 December 2010

    Music: Hope you have a 'Delightful December'! Here's India Arie - 'Video' to brighten your day


    A cheerful song for a chilly month ahead (at least in the UK)

    What are your fave cheer-up songs? Let me know below.